toying
v．
1. 玩弄，摆弄：用手指轻轻地触摸或搅动某物，通常是出于好奇或无聊。
2. 不认真对待，敷衍：对某事或某人不够认真，不投入充分的关注。
例句
He kept toying nervously with his pen.
他一直精神紧张地摆弄着钢笔。
《牛津词典》
I felt her hand in my hair, fingers toying with the locks at my neck, ravelling them up, tugging.
我感到她的手摸着我的头发，手指玩弄着我脖子上的发髻，使发髻缠绕起来，并用力拉着。
《柯林斯英汉双解大词典》
You're toying with us.
你在耍我们。
